Upbringing of Sons 

Guiding Principles for the Upbringing of Sons 
Upbringing of sons is a difficult and tiresome task . Many a parent suffer grief due to the transgression of their offsprings and are in agony because of it . 
In respect of this issue Ibn ul Qayyim al Jawzi [may Allah be pleased with him] comments : 
” Sometimes the grief faced by man due to his children is the expiation of some of his sins and nothing else ! Hence there is glad tiding for the one who tried to bring up his children on the ways preferred by Allah The Glorious and Exalted. And good news is for the one who endured the ordeal  of bringing up his children and it becomes expiation for his sins. So, if you experience fatigue in rearing of your offsprings seek from your Lord forgiveness of your sins ” .
Maqatil bin Suleiman [may Allah have mercy upon him] visited Abbasid Caliph Mansur the day of his pledge of allegiance. Mansur said to him:
“O Maqatil! Admonish me about something.”
To which Maqatil said: “Do I advice you from what I saw or from what I heard?”
Mansur said : “From what you saw.”
Maqatil said : “Listen, O Amir ul Momineen!”
“Omar bin Abdul Aziz had eleven sons and he died leaving only eighteen dinars out of which five dinars were

 used to shroud him, four spent to buy his grave and rest were distributed amongst his sons.
And Hisham bin Abdul Malik too had eleven sons. He left for each son inheritance worth ten lac dinars.
By Allah! O Amir ul Momineen! In just one day I saw one son of Omar bin Abdul Aziz giving away sadaqah in the way of Allah one hundred horses and I saw the son of Hisham begging in the bazar (markets)!!!”
When Omar bin Abdul Aziz was on his death bed people asked him,”what are you leaving behind for your sons?”
To which he replied :
” I have left behind for them Taqwa [piety/fear] of Allah The Glorious The Exalted, so if they are righteous, Allah The Glorious and Exalted is Friend / Guardian of the righteous and if they are otherwise, I shall not leave wealth for them which is helpful for them in the ways of disobedience of Allah.”
Point to Ponder:
People usually work extremely hard to secure their children’s future; striving at great lengths; assuming, after their demise their offspring will only be well and at peace because of the wealth. Whereas they remain ignorant of the larger security which is in the Taqwa [fear / piety] of Allah.  They don’t gift their children the piety which Allah The Glorious, The Exalted has mentioned in His book by saying: [And let those fear as if they had left weak offspring behind and feared for them. So let them fear Allah and speak words of appropriate justice]. [Al Nisa:9] 
When a man would see decline in the character of his son he would do sadaqah / charity, would feed people reciting this verse: [take from their wealth sadaqah to cleanse them and to purify them with it].

And would pray,”O Allah! this charity from me is so that my son develops purity in character because this distortion of his is more cumbersome/ painful for me than his physical disease would be.”
Similarly it is said about another person whenever he couldn’t do sadaqah due to his poverty and his son would annoy him, he would stand in nightly salah, recite Surah AlBaqarah and invoke saying:

“O Allah ! This is sadaqah from me. Accept it from me, and because of it, make him righteous.”
Turn towards Allah by worshipping him with the intention for the righteousness of one’s offspring . Even if they overcome your efforts still they are not able to overcome your intentions.
Our Lord! grant us from among our wives/ spouses and offspring, comfort to our eyes, and make us a leader/ example for the righteous.

Ameen .

-Ustadha Dr Farhat Hashmi 

Ramadan Reflections #18

Alhamdulillah Tonight is the night of 24th 💫💫💫
🎇🌙Everyone must be getting ready for Qiyam al Layl 🌙🌃
‎ماشاالله تبارك الله🌺❤️
Before Starting I want all of you to do these
💖✨ Purify intention that I am doing Everything to Please My Rubb and for

‎لوجه الله
✏🌹️Pray Take Quick Shower if not possible do Wadhu and pray Two Nafl of Tayat al Wadhu✅
✏🌹️Make Dua that Allah swt may bless you Tawfeeq to do the Best Worship, Best Tilawah, Best Duas and Best Istighfaar and all resources work perfectly for you.
✏🌹 Do Sadaqa ✅

Start your Night Worship with Sadaqah

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✏🌹✨️Thank Allah for the Opportunity

‎️اَلْحَمْدُ للهِ كَثِِيْرًا❤️

‎سُبْحَانَ اللهِ وَ الْحَمْدُ للهِ وَ لَا اِلٰهَ اِلَّا اللهُ وَ اللهُ اَکْبَرُ
✏🌹️Recite Istighfaar for strength and energy to give the Right of all Ibadaat from learning to Worshipping.

‎اَسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ 🌹

‎ اَللّٰهُمَّ اِنَّكَ عَفُوٌّ تُحِبُّ الْعَفْوَ فَاعْفُ عَنِّیْ🌹🌙
May Allah swt bless us Taqwa, His Love, health, Strength, Tawfeeq and Barakah in time to perform the Best Worship.
‎امين يا رب العا لمين 💎

Ramadan Reflections #16

Someone asked me today about what they should do tonight in terms of worship. I suggested a couple of things (other than Tarawih since they were going to the masjid anyway) but here is what I want to tell you:
You may be running out of steam but keep going and finish strong. Just like a work out: the last few seconds are the most difficult, painful and exhausting, but you have to muster up all the energy and force you have and keep going. You cannot afford to give up. If you drop 10 seconds too early from your plank you might as well start all over again. The last two dead lifts might make you feel like you will drop dead, but you cannot step away. You MUST pick that bar up and do your thing!

“When you think you are done you’re only 40% of what your body is capable of doing. That’s just the limit that we put on ourselves.” – David Goggins

Taiymiyyah zubair

Ramadan Reflections #15

🌹 Istighfaar 🌹

اَللّٰھُمَّ اغْفِرْلیِْ وَ ارْحَمْنِیْ وَ عَافِنیِْ وَ ارْزُقْنِیْ۔
O Allah, forgive me and have mercy on me and grant me wellbeing and provide for me.
اے الله! مجھے بخش دے، مجھ پر رحم فرما، مجھے عافیت دے اور مجھے رزق عطا فرما۔
❀ Reference ❀
Abū Mālik (r.a) narrated from his father that he heard that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) and said, ‘O Messenger of Allah (s.a.w)! How should I call upon my Lord?’ He (s.a.w) said, ‘Join all your fingers together except for the thumb and pray:

O Allah, forgive me and have mercy on me and grant me wellbeing and provide for me.

Certainly, these words will amass your world and your hereafter.’

[Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim: 6851]
ابو مالکؒ اپنے والد سے روایت کرتے ہیں که انہوں نے نبی صلی الله علیه وسلم سے سنا که ایک آدمی نے آپ کی خدمت میں حاضر ہو کر عرض کیا: اے الله کے رسول! جب میں اپنے رب سے دعا کروں تو کیسے کہوں؟ آپ صلی الله علیه وسلم نے اپنے انگوٹھے کے علاوه باقی انگلیاں جمع کرکے فرمایا: کہو اَللّٰھُمَّ اغْفِرْلیِْ وَ ارْحَمْنِیْ وَ عَافِنیِْ وَ ارْزُقْنِیْ۔

اے الله! مجھے بخش دے، مجھ پر رحم فرما، مجھے عافیت دے اور مجھے رزق عطا فرما۔ یقینا یه کلمات تمہاری دنیا اور آخرت کو جمع کرنے والے ہیں۔
(صحیح مسلم: 6851)

The One Thing that took my Prayer to the next level

RASHIDOON

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Like everyone else I have had my challenges with the Prayer. For quite a while I was frustrated with the level of focus and khushu’ that was at best slim. Therefore, I understand the dissatisfaction some of you feel towards their level of khushu’. At one stage of my life I came to a tentative conclusion that some people were destined to have more khushu’ than others, that some were born with the tendency to develop khushu’ while others were not. Unfortunately, I thought I was among the latter!

However, Allah has blessed me with a persistent and annoying dissatisfaction with lack of focus and khushu’ in my Prayer, that it was easier for me to do something about it than just to live with it. When that point of transformation tipped I found myself gravitating to lectures and books that focus on one’s inner experience of the acts of…

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